Tanja Fridolfs, MS, LMFT in Kingsburg CA

Do you feel disconnected and misunderstood in your marriage?

Maybe there was a big blow up, or perhaps there was infidelity. You may be fighting often, or even considering living separately. Perhaps you’re feeling unseen and hopeless.

Whatever it is that you’re experiencing, you’re beginning to notice the impact of this in every facet of your life:

• Your kids are noticing the fighting or starting to act out
• Your home feels tense instead of like a safe place
• You’re missing important activities and events

Marriage Counseling can help.

It may feel impossible now, but you can build a healthy loving marriage. You can feel seen and accepted. You can reconnect and work together as a team. And I can help you get there.

Marriage Counseling helps you do 4 things:

• Reduce Conflict: We’ll focus on lowering both the frequency and intensity of arguments, helping you communicate more effectively and peacefully.
• Understand Your Cycle: Every couple has a negative pattern of interaction. By identifying and understanding yours, you’ll be better equipped to break the cycle and address the root causes of your conflicts, rather than attacking each other.

• Foster Understanding: We’ll guide you in recognizing and valuing each other’s emotions and motivations, while working to ensure both partners feel truly heard and understood.
• Strengthen Your Connection: We’ll work on rebuilding and deepening trust and vulnerability, helping you develop a stronger, more supportive partnership where you can tackle challenges together with a sense of teamwork and mutual respect.

I’ll help through this process, tailoring each step to your unique needs and circumstances. My approach to Marriage counseling comes from a place of acceptance and hope : Believing that you and your spouse are deeply important to each other and deserve support in discovering more effective ways to navigate challenges and build a stronger, more meaningful connection.

It’s time to create a healthy, loving marriage.

I can help you get there.

FAQ

Q: What are marriage counseling sessions like?

A: We will start by getting to know each other. You will come in as a couple for the first session, then I will meet with each of you individually. After that we will meet weekly and begin working on the everyday issues that come up for you. Through those we will begin to understand your cycle and the deeper themes and specific incidents that are effecting your relationship. We will continue to work together to build understanding and trust.

Q: How long do I need to be in therapy?

A: Because each couple is unique, there is no set amount of time or sessions.  I want to make sure that we take the time needed to get your marriage to a place that you feel is healthy. If time or finances are a factor, we can adjust to meeting  every other week, instead of weekly.

Q: How do I know if marriage counseling will work for me?

A: I’ve found that couples who come in committed to working hard and not giving up tend to make significant progress. Since every couple is unique and responds differently to therapy, I can’t guarantee specific outcomes. However, I have worked with many couples facing a variety of challenges, and research shows that Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) has a high success rate, with 70-90% of couples reporting significant improvements in their relationships.

Q: How do we get started?

A: Please send me an email. We can set up a free consultation call for us to connect with each other and answer any questions you have or if you’re ready we can schedule your first appointment through email.